Street Wisdom: How To Spot A Female Pedophile
Women can abuse too
I don’t like the idea of trigger warnings but this post will deal with material of a very disturbing nature so I’ll place one here
As prepping becomes more popular people are grouping up and that means people with children are sometimes meeting people with less than savory intent. I used to write about crime quite a bit and one thing people with kid tend to forget is that women can be abusers too. If you have children, and certainly if you’re a single parent with children, people who want access to your kids will try to ingratiate themselves with your family. Women, because of our inherent biases, are better at this than men.
Luckily for you perverts are all basically the same so I’m going to teach you how to quickly assess women you meet for the possibility of them being child predators. Notice I avoid the term pedophile except in the title (for clarity) because as I’ve argued for years there is no such thing as a “pedophile orientation” so I avoid using words that even bring up this sad, asinine argument.
All this comes from my experience with the subject including working with anti-pedo groups. I will be using some of my older work to illustrate some points.
Women who offend against children sexually can be broken down into three groups
Partnered offenders - most often male partners but lesbians are seen as well. These women will be dating/married to a predator and for a variety of reasons will help that partner procure and abuse children. Often when caught they will claim they were forced but most victim testimony I’ve seen shows the women to be active in and/or encouraging the abuse. Female couples tend to find boys that are sexually tortured but not used for sexual gratification in my experience. There is a subsect of women who have online only partners and they will abuse children online at the direction of random men on the web.
Statutory rapists - these are “party moms” or young teachers. They are the easiest to spot because they are for the most part pathologically immature and otherwise tend to have trouble with adult relationships romantic and otherwise. The most common scenario is a young teacher (think 20s) who is assigned to middle or high school and starts “relationships” with boys there, though again there are lesbians in this category too. If they’re not caught right way they simply continue. When it’s mothers it’s usually an alcoholic or drug user who abuses their child’s friends. In these cases you see the victims will skew older.
Sadists - there are various types of sadist but the key here is that female offenders with sadistic desires prey on kids because they’re easier to overpower. Blood fetishism was something I saw quite a bit while writing about crime in female perpetrators and I’m not sure how meaningful that is.
So how do you recognize these people? Let’s work backwards. Remember when I talked about blood fetishists? One piece I wrote years ago was about a up and coming (at the time) musician - who spent her free time on pedophile forums discussing killing children:
Alia Loren Jacobson, also known online as Alia Lorae A.K.A. Poisontears is a singer, actress, and writer with a large web footprint. She also is a depraved fiend who admits to being concerned with her sadistic sexual fantasies involving bloodletting and maiming girls from the ages of 7-14. She is the textbook blood fetishist.
Rather than seek help for her disturbance, she went to pro-child rape forum Girlchat where she promptly received validation and encouragement for her sickest and most twisted desires. The embracing of bloodletting fantasies about children is shocking coming from the self-professed “girl lovers” who lurk on the Internet if only because they spend so much time trying to convince people that they are not evil, but they are not the only people who have encouraged and minimized Alia’s sickness of the soul.
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Back in 2001 Alia wrote this on Open Hands, a now defunct website founded by a pedophile who calls himself Bach to provide support for other child rapists:
Recently though, I’ve been having the strangest fantasies….ones where I’m with girls younger than me, like from ages eight to fourteen. Sometimes they are violent (as in I am carving strange designs into their bodies and drinking the blood….eeks, I’ve always had a weird attraction to pain…) and sometimes they are very gentle, loving, consensual. I don’t know. Just pale, doll-like faces and bodies that are only just beginning to curve around the hips….soft little hands…I find it all so beautiful.
In 2002 Alia wrote this missive to her online compatriots:
I keep having these dreams where i’m trying to fondle this little girl and crush her and bite her neck to draw blood–and i like it in the dreams–and i hate that i like it. Sometimes when i’m walking and i see someone boy or girl who i think is beautiful the first thing that comes through my mind is how erotic it would be to hurt them…..and then hearing about all the children being abducted and murdered it makes me feel even worse for thinking such things.
Here are more recent examples of her escalating perversions. October of 2007:
I am pretty much exclusively attracted to girls between the ages of 7 and 12. I want to be attracted to people my own age, and I can find them pretty – but I never feel physically or emotionally drawn to them, and only little girls give me that flutter in my stomach when they walk by. When I hear a little girl laugh, it breaks my heart with a strange sort of unexplainable joy.
However, I am extremely hesitant to call myself a girl-lover. This is because pretty much all my fantasies are extremely violent, and although I know I’m not supposed to say this, I DO think about hurting girls – gentle romance and sexual imagery do nothing for me and never have.
From July of 2008:
I was looking through the “classes” section on craigslist, and thought i saw a class called, “Chinese Torturing For Children.” It turned out to be “tutoring,” not “torturing,” but for a second there i was so excited…
Her art and poetry are reflections of sadistic sexuality and deviance.
Forgive the flowery writing on my part - the original Red Alerts was part art project, but I digress. What’s important here is her paraphilias seep out into her art and other aspects of her life including who she chooses to socialize with. These are things you will notice if you look for them. Her case includes another aspect we see in young female predators which is enabling by those around her:
As I was writing this, crime blogger Lilo was confused to receive an email from Alia’s father, a Dr. Mark Jacobson who among other things threatened to sue her for blogging about the case. She was confused because she had in fact not even heard about the case much less blogged it. The good Dr. apparently was confused by the fact that she has contributed in the past to Absolute Zero United. In his email he makes this startling claim:
My daughter went through an “identity” issue several years ago, and did indeed make some statements on the Internet that have long since been resolved. Her presentation now is solely that of an entertainer, with elements of dress and song lyrics quite common to New York City.
Yet again we see both a minimization and encouragement of her fixation on perpetrating sexual violence against children. Her desire to torture and maim children, which she feels is sexually arousing, is not an “identity issue,” it is sexual sadism. More specifically I believe her to be both a sadist in the classic sense and a blood fetishist. Her pedophilia is driven by victim selection, she knows she can more easily overpower children, whom she sees as objects of for her sexual satisfaction. Her paintings indicate, to we playing armchair profiler, that she still sees herself as essentially a child and separate from the normal world, both rejected by it and superior to it.
Her father would know that, since according to reports Alia was hospitalized during her college stay when she frightened her dorm mate with her confession of interest in violent child rape. Allegedly her parents counseled her to keep quiet and not tell the doctors treating her the truth. This would indicate they knew how deeply disturbed she was, and is.
More disturbing though is his implying that her blood soaked Gothic Lolita act is mitigating her interest in sadism and blood fetishism and not amplifying it. It seems like denial, especially given his insistence that she hasn’t made statements on the Web in “several years” when it can be proven that she was in pedophile chats less than a year ago. In allowing Alia to adopt this stage persona he is encouraging her embrace of what is, essentially, evil.
The girl I was writing about was a adult at the time (early 20s?) and her father was quite pro-active attacking “crime blogs” who were even peripherally covering her. When parents are overly involved in young adults lives in this way it’s a red flag. It usually means they are concerned with their child’s ability to navigate socially and stay out of trouble.
So if you’re meeting a potential prepping partner it pays to check their social media, their creative endeavors etc. Google them. Look at their paintings. Ask them what they think about criminals. See how they treat pets and friends. Sadism cannot be completely suppressed in my opinion.
Working back to the second kind of offender, this is easy to spot. The news is full of them and there are some obvious red flags to look for:
Drug and/or alcohol use seem to be a main component of their personality. The can’t socialize without it and are constantly probing to see if you’re “cool”
Seem much more immature than their age. Overly flirty at inappropriate times. If you’re dating them they will come across as needy but also entitled. Will almost immediately try to befriend your kids.
Seems to need sexual attention from more than one person and much of her self worth is tied to being wanted or desirable.
Cannot have serious adult conversations (is defensive for example) and cannot maintain friendships with peers. gravitates toward younger people in social settings.
Super simple really. If you meet a 28 year old woman who is single, has no friends around her age, gets high a lot and seems over interested in babysitting raise an eyebrow. These particular offenders are too immature to have normal relationships with adults so you’ll see those kinds of problems in their behavior. Like crying over minor things, yelling and hitting when angry, expecting to be taken care of etc.
And now at the number one spot we have the partnered abusers. These are harder to spot because in reality the partner that has the most trouble gaining trust will use the other as their public face. Since as a prepper you’re going to be meeting a lot of people online remember that. Be weary of couples where you only interact with one person and never the other.
In many cases I’ve covered single mothers allowed or participated in abuse of their children simply to please the partner though I’ve seen cases where the woman is the instigator.
The 32-year-old “mother,” who can only be described fairly as a sociopathic gutterslut, conspired with her boyfriend 40-year-old Duane Calloway to drug her 13-year-old daughter so that Calloway could rape the child in the hopes of getting her pregnant. She drugged her own daughter at least twice, allowing the pervert she was enthralled with to assault the child after the child refused the proposal to get knocked up, and marry, her mother’s boyfriend.
That’s right, Shana Brown actually asked her daughter to become the sex slave/baby breeder for her boyfriend, then resorted to the rapes when the girl refused:
The girl told police the plot was apparently hatched sometime in December after she rejected her mother’s proposal that she allow Calloway to impregnate her and then marry him.
In the following months, Calloway tried to rape the girl three times, Gmitter said:The first time, in February, the girl was alone with Calloway while her mother went out to buy pizza, according to the criminal complaint. Calloway began groping her and she kicked him away, the documents stated.
A few weeks later, the girl believes her mother spiked her Pepsi with rum, according to police. The girl told them she felt ill after drinking the Pepsi, passed out and vomited. She was partially naked when she woke up with Calloway in the room, according to the criminal complaint.
The third time occurred in mid-March, when the girl told police she came home early from school because she was not feeling well. She said that her mother forced her to drink tea.
After that incident, according to an AP report, the girl pretended to fall asleep until Calloway “made his move” at which point she bolted and made her escape.
Like all criminality you’ll see general debauched lifestyles play into the crimes. It’s important to note in the above story and other links that there was often jealousy of the victim on the female partners part. In fact in one of the above links we saw friends and family come out to confirm that the methed out mother was openly jealous of the victim to friends and family:
So if I understand the prosecutor’s timeline little Ashley was beaten half to death, raped and then most likely her own mother strangled her after allowing her husband to rape the girl.
Word on the cyber street is that it was a jealousy issue with a drug addicted mother finding out her old man was raping her daughter and blaming the child. Here are a few comments from a local board I found, grain of salt obviously, but they were too interesting to pass up.
This is from a Jennifer Cooke who claims to have known the mother:
I knew both of them.My husband’s Aunt was best friends with Ashley’s Parents and we all thought something was wrong.Ashley was always having to tend to her little brother when he was a baby.And never really got to be happy because of the life she had to live with both of her biological parents.I wish that I knew what was going on.As far as I know Chris is still in the county jail in protective custody as far as he goes I have no clue.But I hope they both get the death penalty or that the same thing happens to them that they did to her.She was always saying oh Ashley is only 12 but she has legs like a grown woman.Chris always wanted the perfect life like a fairy tale so I think maybe at first she didn’t know that he was having unconsentual sex with her daughter and when she found out she got so mad and jealous and treated her daughter like she was a woman messing around with him.I think it got to the point to where he would’ve rather slept with a child than her.And I don’t know why he done what he done the story I heard from a reliable source was that they were both on oxycontin and other drugs.Either way there will never be justification for what they did they deserve to thrown in the prison population an have the guards shout out what they done.So they can get their A** BEAT.
R.I.P ASHLEY
WE MISS YOU!!!!Here’s a comment from a woman claiming to be the victim’s step mother regarding Dillard:
She has had drug problems on and off since Ashley was born. Absolutely a judge knew that. DHR was not involved after me and father got custody of her, so it was a family court judge that said she needed to go back since my ex husband was single now. Another thing that bothers me is that the DHR never once received any complaints that anything was wrong. I have spoken with the person in charge of the child neglect division and she said if they just had one person had complained about Ashley she would have taken right out of that home. I have heard many people say that they thought something was wrong but no calls were ever made to the DHR!! As far as her sister and brother , it will them that one day gets to decide if they want to see Chris be put to sleep for murdering their sister and that is one decision I never wanted to have to make.
Like I said grain of salt, but if this is true it’s more proof that if you see something you should say something. Get involved people.
The above illustrates two points. Envy played a part in the most severe abuse and… the mother couldn’t hide that. The victim died because people wouldn’t call child services. They knew in hindsight they should have called because the mother said odd things about the victim.
Criminals, especially the most degenerate kind, can’t act normal. They can act friendly or charming but not normal. You convince yourself they’re normal because you like them and they often rely on that.
These are just general things I’ve noticed about female predators. I’m not a criminologist or a psychologist. I just wrote about this stuff until one day I just couldn’t read another story like this so take my experience for what it’s worth. If it matters I also received training in recognizing abuse while working with kids and teens.